Amy Adams and Demi Moore Explain Why They Don't Tell Their Daughters That They're Good Girls

Mar. 15, 2025

Amy Adamsis opening up about how she wants to parent her daughter.

In a conversation withVariety, theNightbitchactor explained to fellow actressDemi Moorewhy she strives to use gender-neutral language when praising her daughter,Aviana Olea, 14, whom she shares with husbandDarren Le Gallo.

“Women in general, there is a sense of it not being okay to be angry,” Moore, 62, began. “Not that anybody’s saying we can’t be, but that it’s been in a way the collective consciousness of like, ‘Oh, that’s not attractive.’ "

“You’ve raised daughters, and I’ve had to really work on being like, ‘Oh my gosh, you’re such a good… No, don’t say it. You’re such a good person, and I’m really proud of you.’ Instead of…” Adams began.

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From left: Darren Le Gallo, Amy Adams and Aviana.ALERIE MACON/AFP via Getty

ALERIE MACON/AFP via Getty

“You’re a good girl,” Moore finished.The Substanceactress is mom to three daughters of her own:Rumer, 36, Scout, 33, andTallulah, 30, all of whom she shares with her ex,Bruce Willis.

Appearing on a December episode ofThe Drew Barrymore Show, Adams opened up about how shechanged after becoming a momto her daughter.

“I think my awareness of how much I changed just took time, because I was trying so hard to please others and trying so hard to just do everything that I could and be everything to everybody all the time,” Adams began.

“I think it just exhausted myself,” she continued, “And at some point, I had no more energy for anything but honesty.”

From left: Tallulah Willis, Scout LaRue Willis, Demi Moore, and Rumer Willis.Matt Winkelmeyer/VF24/WireImage

Matt Winkelmeyer/VF24/WireImage

“At some point I was able to speak the truth and to really ask for what I needed, communicate that maybe I don’t have it all under control and maybe I need a little bit more support than I thought I did. Because I, like I said, I changed,” she added.

The actress said she also spent time “reorganizing priorities and learning new types of communication,” as well as “really being present and enjoying each moment with this beautiful being in front of me.”

Looking back on her mindset as a new mom, Adams admitted she may have taken life a little too seriously. Especially now that Aviana is a teenager, she said, “I would give anything to go back and rock her.”

source: people.com