Bride Wants to Honor Grandparents by Getting Married on Their 56th Wedding Anniversary, but Her Grandma 'Isn't Thrilled'

Mar. 15, 2025

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A bride has chosen what she believes is a special wedding date — her grandparents' anniversary — but her family wants her to change her plans.

Explaining her mom’s reasoning, the OP (original poster) wrote: “To begin with, my mom has said it feels like the date is being taken away from her, that it will no longer be a day about her and her late husband, but about my niece and her new husband. She has stated it will be very hard for her to be at a wedding on what should have been her 56th anniversary and not have her husband at her side.”

The aunt said she even suggested that the bride could find other special ways to honor her grandfather and make him a part of her wedding day.

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“It doesn’t seem right to do something to honor one person (who is dead) at the expense of someone who has to go through the emotional/painful moment,” she argued. “But basically, I was told to just deal with it.”

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“If she is doing it specifically to honor someone who has passed, and the person closest to the person who passed says ‘this feels disrespectful and does not feel like it is honoring him at all,’ she needs to listen to that,” one person wrote. “People don’t get to just unilaterally say ‘it’s in honor of x so it’s okay’ as if anything done in honor of another person is automatically in good taste or okay.”

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Others praised the OP for standing up for her mother and validating her feelings.

Another person chimed in: “Big applause for taking your mom’s feelings into consideration and speaking up for her, I’m sure it means a lot to her since it seems no one else is listening.”

A few others told the OP that, despite her frustration over the situation, she probably needs to let it go at this point.

“I understand why you wanted to advocate for your mother in this. It sucks that your mother talked to your niece, and your niece doesn’t care about her point of view, but at this point you’ve done everything you can,” one person wrote.

Yet another commenter took an optimistic view, writing that the situation may all work out okay in the end. “Who knows, she may go into it initially with reservations and then experience it from a place where it actually brings her comfort and peace,” they wrote, telling the OP, “Just be ready to be there for your mother on that day.”

source: people.com