Bride Won't Let Best Friend's Fiancé Propose at Her Wedding: 'Awkward Moment'

Mar. 15, 2025

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A bride is being accused of “ruining” her best friend’s fiancé’s proposal plans after she refused to let him pop the question at her wedding.

Ina poston Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum, the 30-year-old bride explained that she got married last month and “everything went off without a hitch” on the big day — with the exception of one very “awkward moment” in the lead-up to the nuptials.

She shared that a week before her wedding, her best friend Maya asked if her fiancé Jake could propose to her at her reception. “Apparently, Jake thought it would be ‘romantic’ and was convinced that it would make their moment more special,” the bride wrote.

While Maya and Jake were excited about the plan, the bride was not so keen.

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As it turns out, though, Maya and Jake were not okay with the bride’s refusal. “On the wedding day, I noticed Maya and Jake were acting distant, and it was clear something was off. I later found out that Jake was upset with me for ‘ruining his plan’ and felt like I’d been selfish for not allowing them to share in the love of the day,” the bride explained, as she invited people to weigh in on the sticky situation.

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The majority of responders sided with the bride, agreeing that her wedding was not the time and place for another couple’s romantic moment to unfold.

“Your wedding day is about celebrating you and your partner, not serving as a backdrop for someone else’s proposal. Proposals at weddings are often seen as inappropriate because they can shift the focus away from the couple being celebrated, which is exactly why you were right to say no,” one person wrote.

“Honestly, your friend should have known better than to ask in the first place,” they continued. “It’s common sense that it’s rude to make someone else’s wedding about you, and I don’t understand why she even thought that would be okay. It’s your day — not an open mic for other people’s romantic gestures.”

Yet another commenter joked, “Were Maya and Jake also planning on paying for half the costs of the reception, caterer, DJ, decorations, etc.? I mean they wanted toshare in the love of the day, so did that mean they wanted to also share in the costs of the day? … Yah, didn’t think so.”

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Other people questioned Maya and Jake’s true motives, pointing out the strangeness of Maya being the one to ask the bride if her fiancé could propose.

“They asked. Were told ‘no’. Now they’re sulking. That’s tough cookies,” one person argued, adding, “At least they didn’t go ahead and do it anyway!”

source: people.com