Bride Worries About Bridesmaid with ‘Attitude’: ‘She’s Going to Tank My Wedding’

Mar. 15, 2025

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A bride is asking for advice on how to handle a bridesmaid with “attitude.”

The night before her wedding, a bride asked Reddit users via aposton the platform’s “Wedding Planning” forum for help on what to do with her problematic bridesmaid. Despite being friends for more than a decade, the bride is considering demoting or uninviting her bridesmaid from her wedding at the last minute.

The other bridesmaids are also fed up with her behavior.

“[She’s] made a lot of the things in the group chat about herself, to the point where my other bridesmaids are starting to get a bit snappy with her,” she explained.

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To make matters worse, the bridesmaid was more than an hour late to the bachelorette party and gave no notice that she was running behind.

“I had to call her and ask if she was coming,” the bride recalled. “Fair enough she had to drive a couple of hours, but wouldn’t you plan it so you get there on time?”

Her actions were just as disappointing at the rehearsal dinner.

“She had such an attitude that almost everyone there was gobsmacked,” the Redditor said. “It was bad.”

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The poster acknowledged that her bridesmaid has “taken time off work and spent a lot of money” in preparation for her wedding, even booking herself various beauty appointments to look her best for the big day. However, the bride is at her wit’s end.

“Any advice on how to either not let it affect me or do I remove her?” she asked. “I’m just so lost right now.”

Commenters questioned why the bride didn’t confront her bridesmaid about her attitude sooner. They argued that it was “too late to kick her out,” and suggested that the bride “reevaluate” their friendship after the wedding.

“Talk to her directly and be frank — ‘I want to have a wonderful wedding day so just swallow any criticism and attitude. I don’t want to hear or see anything negative.’ She can’t be mad at that!” one Redditor wrote. “And who is your MOH (maid of honor)? Put her in charge of this ‘friend’ and make sure she keeps her distance from you. Don’t give her the power to ruin your day.”

source: people.com