Bridesmaid Realizes Everyone in Wedding Party Got a Plus 1 — Except Her: 'Embarrassed and Confused'

Mar. 15, 2025

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A bridesmaid wasn’t impressed after her close friend told her she couldn’t bring her longtime boyfriend to her wedding, despite most other guests getting a plus one.

A Reddit user shared aposton the forum’s “bridezillas” thread this week, explaining how she’d heard at her friend’s bachelorette party that some people were allowed to bring their boyfriends and partners to her upcoming wedding. However, the poster said she was expected to attend the nuptials alone, despite being in a long-term relationship.

“I’m curious to hear opinions on my situation,” the Reddit user began. “We’ve been friends for 10+ years, we basically grew up together. We’ve always had a good friendship.”

The person continued, “A few weeks ago, I asked her if I had a plus one to her wedding. She told me she was limiting plus ones to engaged/married couples, which I am not.”

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“I heard another bridesmaid mention her boyfriend was invited. The bride knew I heard it and made a point to say that it wasn’t personal (towards my boyfriend), but that they were limiting plus ones to partners both bride and groom have met,” the user said.

“Her fiancé does not live near me and there has never been an opportunity for our partners to meet. I immediately felt singled out, embarrassed, and confused,” she added.

The poster said she just feels “hurt” now, given that she’s in a “serious relationship” with a long-term partner. “I wouldn’t be bringing some random tinder date to the wedding. I think every bridesmaid has a plus one except me,” she shared.

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“That’s absolutely not normal,” one person’s comment included, adding, “Your friend is being unreasonable.”

Another posted, “I was a bridesmaid in my good friend’s wedding and she initially tried to make the same rule, which ended up excluding only [two] of us in the bridal party. Turns out we both pushed back on her and she figured out she wasn’t being very reasonable and relented. I’d ask her to reconsider.”

“It’s rude and insulting. I’d tell her exactly how I feel and give her a chance to make this right. Otherwise, I’m out,” a third person wrote, adding: “You DO NOT allow some boyfriends and not others. It’s her wedding, so she can opt not to invite your boyfriend, just as you can decline attending.”

“Would your boyfriend even want to attend?” a different person questioned, adding, “You are are not wrong to find this weird, and in your shoes, I’d probably be weirded out too. But it could be a blessing in disguise.”

source: people.com