Chappell Roan on Coming Out as a Lesbian: 'I Just Wasn't Supposed to Be Sleeping with Men'

Mar. 15, 2025

Chappell Roan for Rolling Stone.Photo:Inez & Vinoodh

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Chappell Roanfinally feels comfortable in her sexuality.

In acover story interview withRolling Stone, the “Pink Pony Club” singer, 26, opened up about coming out as a lesbian, which she confirmed to fans during an Ohio concert earlier this year.

According to Roan (whose real name is Kayleigh Amstutz), she thought there was something “wrong” with her.

“Finally it’s like, ‘Oh, I know why. It’s because I’m gay and nothing’s actually wrong with me,'” she told the publication. “I just wasn’t supposed to be sleeping with men, and now I’m a little repulsed at the thought of even kissing a guy because no one’s going to be as good as girls.”

Roan realized she had a lot of shame around her sexuality and had to do a lot of “unlearning” from her Christian upbringing.

Chappell Roan for Rolling Stone.Inez & Vinoodh

“I was scared of flamboyantly gay people because I was taught that,” she told the outlet. “[I realized] people hate flamboyantly gay people because it exudes femininity, and people hate women. Just little things like that that you’re like, ‘Oh, my God, this is so f—ed.’ ”

Roan said she’s still “confused” about certain things and is “so uncomfortable being gay sometimes.”

“I don’t get why this is such an issue for me. It shouldn’t be, but something’s just going on and I need to just accept that,” she said.

Roan also opened up about what it means to just exist as a queer person.

“You don’t necessarily have to be out-loud out,” she said. “You can kind of silently celebrate if you would like."

Roan added that while she loves being gay “I just don’t want to talk about it every second of every day.”

The pop star also commented on how nice it’s been to see queer women and nonbinary artists taking over pop, includingBillie Eilish,Reneé Rapp,Victoria Monét,Munaand boygenius.

“It’s so nice that people have started to take queer artists seriously outside of their queerness,” Roan said.

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Chappell Roan on the cover of Rolling Stone.Inez & Vinoodh

“It’s just a great way to engage the local queer community to that city,” Roan said. “I encourage people to tip the queens, that’s redistributing funds within the community there, and also it just gives a platform for the drag queens.

She added: “Some of these queens have never performed in front of a crowd that big before, and it’s just fun.”

source: people.com