Chelsea Handler Reveals She's Having 'a Lot' of 'Hot Sex' During Her 'Sexual Awakening' at Age 49

Mar. 15, 2025

Chelsea Handler visits SiriusXM Studios on June 7, 2023 in New York City.Photo:Jason Mendez/Getty Images

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Chelsea Handleris living her best life as she gets ready to turn 50!The comedian, who will celebrate her 50th birthday on Feb. 25, opened up about embracing her age during an appearance onArmchair ExpertwithDax Shepard.“I was just saying to my girlfriends, I’m like, guys, can you give me some good sagacious words or advice sagacious to throw around because it sounds so lame to be like, I’m sexier than ever,” she shared of the milestone birthday. “You hear these sound bites of people turning 50. I feel more alive. You’re like, god, this is so lame, sexier than ever.”Chelsea Handler on ‘The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon’ on Oct. 4, 2023.Noam Galai/NBC via GettyWhen asked if the adage is true, the television personality admitted, “Yeah. I mean, I’m having a lot of sex. Hot sex. Definitely a sexual awakening when you become [an] older woman, you know, forties, fifties because you don’t give a s— anymore.”“You don’t care what position you’re in,” she added. “You don’t care how your body is looking. You’re not in that 20-year-old phase where you’re lying down horizontally to make yourself look thinner.“TheI’ll Have What She’s Havingauthor revealed that when turning 50 that you’re no longer “preoccupied with the past and you’re not preoccupied with the future. You are more present and living in the moment because you understand that all of that s— doesn’t matter the way you thought it used to matter.”“You know when you obsess over stuff that has already transpired and that’s a waste of energy,” she explained. “And you’re also worried so much about how things are gonna go or shake out, and you realize you’ve gotten yourself this far, everything will work itself out.”From left: Jo Koy and Chelsea Handler arrive to the 2021 People’s Choice Awards held at Barker Hangar on December 7, 2021 in Santa Monica, California.Rich Polk/E! Entertainment/NBCUniversal/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty ImagesHandler also reflected on her relationship withJo Koyfollowingtheir split in July 2022after nearly a year of dating.“When we broke up, I felt like I had no choice,” she shared. “I felt like it was a decision between having a relationship and being full on or choosing myself and my sanity — sanity is an overstatement — but I would have compromised my own value system.”“What I thought was a mature, healthy relationship and what he thought was a mature, healthy relationship were two different things, and I would have had to compromise everything I stand for and I wasn’t willing to do that,” she continued.Handler recalled “a couple of instances,” during which the former couple had “different ideas about togetherness and the amount of time we would spend together and the expectations of me as his girlfriend, which to me were very outdated, old fashioned, and not going to work.”Despite their differences, Handler revealed what she learned about herself through the relationship.“The biggest takeaway from that relationship was A, that I was able to be in love in a vulnerable, mature, healthy way,” she said. “And that when I realized it wasn’t going to work out I was able to end it in a healthy, mature way and not divulge all of the stuff and the ugliness that may have happened in between because I didn’t want to focus on that.”Never miss a story — sign up forPEOPLE’s free daily newsletterto stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer​​, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.She noted that she realized that was “capable of accepting love” and “being vulnerable,” which made her “want more of it.”“He got me at a point in my life where I needed to be reminded of my strength and my power of who I am and he reinstalled that in me because I had kind of lost interest in my work and the job,” she concluded.

Chelsea Handleris living her best life as she gets ready to turn 50!

The comedian, who will celebrate her 50th birthday on Feb. 25, opened up about embracing her age during an appearance onArmchair ExpertwithDax Shepard.

“I was just saying to my girlfriends, I’m like, guys, can you give me some good sagacious words or advice sagacious to throw around because it sounds so lame to be like, I’m sexier than ever,” she shared of the milestone birthday. “You hear these sound bites of people turning 50. I feel more alive. You’re like, god, this is so lame, sexier than ever.”

Chelsea Handler on ‘The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon’ on Oct. 4, 2023.Noam Galai/NBC via Getty

Noam Galai/NBC via Getty

When asked if the adage is true, the television personality admitted, “Yeah. I mean, I’m having a lot of sex. Hot sex. Definitely a sexual awakening when you become [an] older woman, you know, forties, fifties because you don’t give a s— anymore.”

“You don’t care what position you’re in,” she added. “You don’t care how your body is looking. You’re not in that 20-year-old phase where you’re lying down horizontally to make yourself look thinner.”

TheI’ll Have What She’s Havingauthor revealed that when turning 50 that you’re no longer “preoccupied with the past and you’re not preoccupied with the future. You are more present and living in the moment because you understand that all of that s— doesn’t matter the way you thought it used to matter.”

“You know when you obsess over stuff that has already transpired and that’s a waste of energy,” she explained. “And you’re also worried so much about how things are gonna go or shake out, and you realize you’ve gotten yourself this far, everything will work itself out.”

From left: Jo Koy and Chelsea Handler arrive to the 2021 People’s Choice Awards held at Barker Hangar on December 7, 2021 in Santa Monica, California.Rich Polk/E! Entertainment/NBCUniversal/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty Images

Rich Polk/E! Entertainment/NBCUniversal/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty Images

Handler also reflected on her relationship withJo Koyfollowingtheir split in July 2022after nearly a year of dating.

“When we broke up, I felt like I had no choice,” she shared. “I felt like it was a decision between having a relationship and being full on or choosing myself and my sanity — sanity is an overstatement — but I would have compromised my own value system.”

“What I thought was a mature, healthy relationship and what he thought was a mature, healthy relationship were two different things, and I would have had to compromise everything I stand for and I wasn’t willing to do that,” she continued.

Handler recalled “a couple of instances,” during which the former couple had “different ideas about togetherness and the amount of time we would spend together and the expectations of me as his girlfriend, which to me were very outdated, old fashioned, and not going to work.”

Despite their differences, Handler revealed what she learned about herself through the relationship.

“The biggest takeaway from that relationship was A, that I was able to be in love in a vulnerable, mature, healthy way,” she said. “And that when I realized it wasn’t going to work out I was able to end it in a healthy, mature way and not divulge all of the stuff and the ugliness that may have happened in between because I didn’t want to focus on that.”

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She noted that she realized that was “capable of accepting love” and “being vulnerable,” which made her “want more of it.”

“He got me at a point in my life where I needed to be reminded of my strength and my power of who I am and he reinstalled that in me because I had kind of lost interest in my work and the job,” she concluded.

source: people.com