Heather Dubrow's 4 Kids: All About Max, Nick, Kat and Ace

Mar. 15, 2025

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Heather Dubrowmay hold her fellowReal Housewives of Orange Countycastmates to the highest of standards, but when it comes to her kids, she’s much more relaxed.

The reality star shares four children with her longtime husband, plastic surgeon andBotchedstarTerry Dubrow. The couple has chronicled much of their kids' upbringing onRHOC, with many fans praising Heather’s open approach to parenting — includingRihanna.

“[I] just love the way that she just allows her kids to be who they are,” the singertoldElleof Heather in 2022. “And that’s really inspiring to me.”

Over the years, Heather has supported her children through thick and thin. When her eldest daughter Max came out as bisexual in June 2020, Heather shared how proud she was of her. “Whatever I can do to support them, and in this case Max, I’m in,” theRHOCstar told PEOPLE. “So there’s nothing she could tell me that would upset me.”

When her daughter Kat came out as a lesbian one year later,Heather was just as supportive. “We’ve got four kids, they are different genders, different sexualities, and all at interesting places in their lives, figuring out who they are and where they belong as humans,” she said.

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Heather’s desire to share their stories and spark discussion played a part in her desire toreturn toRHOCafter leaving in season 11. “I felt like our purpose is to keep those conversations going in other families,” she explained.

On a September 2024 episode ofRHOC,Heather said that having access to “more inclusive opportunities” for her LGBTQ+ children was a big reason her family chose to move to Los Angeles from Orange County.

“If your child deviates from the norm, it’s a rough road,” she said. “Having four kids of different genders and different sexualities, Terry and I want to set them up for success when they leave the house.”

Here’s everything to know about Heather Dubrow’s four kids: Max, Nick, Kat and Ace.

Max Dubrow, 21

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Maximillia “Max” Beatrix Dubrowwas born on Nov. 24, 2003, along with her twin brother Nick. In 2016, Heather told Bravo’sThe Daily Dishthat she named Max after her own grandmother.

Max graduated from high school in 2022 and began studying at Boston’s Tufts University in August. Her proud momhelped her moveinto the dorms.

In 2020, when she was 17 years old,Max came outas bisexual. “I always knew I was bi, I just thought it was bipolar,” she joked on Instagram.

Max has been open about her journey in embracing her sexuality. In 2021, she published an advice book calledI’ll Give It To You Straight-ish, based on her podcast of the same name, to give parents insight on how to handle their teen coming out. Max had a relatively easy time coming out to her family — an experience which inspired her to write the book.

“Their responseswere really easyand really nice and funny and very nonchalant,” Max recalled. “I’m very grateful for that because it shouldn’t be a big thing, but it is. … Them kind of making it a more normal thing was really good.”

In 2020, Max auditioned forAmerican Idol, and her mom was happy to brag about her daughter’s talents. “Watching my daughter @maxdubrow CRUSH her @americanidol audition!” Heatherwrote on Instagram.

The proud mom also sharedfootage of Max singingin a holiday show in 2016. The next year,Max performedwith the heavy metal bandQuiet Riot, paying tribute to her late uncle Kevin DuBrow with the band he founded in the ’70s. “Wow. this was an amazing night. i love u kevin, hope i made you proud,” she wrote.

Nick Dubrow, 21

Nick Dubrow Instagram

Heather and Terry welcomed their sonNicholas “Nick” Kent Dubrowon Nov. 24, 2003. His middle name, Kent, is his mother’s maiden name. “I only have a sister, so I thought to keep it alive, we’ll give him the middle name Kent,” Heather toldThe Daily Dish.

In 2022, Nick graduated from high school and started college at Loyola Marymount University in Los Angeles, where his momhelped him moveinto his dorm. “And just like that… my first born is off to college 😭😭😭,” Heather captioned aphotoof Nick in his neatly organized room.

Although Nick doesn’t post often on Instagram, he has shared a few sweet snaps with his family, including multiple photos with his twin sister. “Are you identical?” he captioned aphotoof him and Max in July 2022.

Heather also regularly shares photos of Max and his siblings on her own profile. In December 2022, she celebrated her twins coming home for the holidays with a series of carousel posts from their family festivities — including one adorablephotoof the bunch wearing matching Christmas pajamas.

Kat Dubrow, 18

Kat Dubrow Instagram

Heather’s middle child,Katarina “Kat” Alexandra Dubrow, was born on Oct. 5, 2006.

When she was 14 years old,Kat came outas a lesbian to her family. She shared the news publicly the next year, ahead of anRHOCepisode that would address her coming out.

The middle Dubrow child was comfortable sharing the news with her family, though — in fact, she was incredibly nonchalant. “Kat decided to drop in our family group text, ‘By the way, I’m a lesbian,’ " Heather recalled to PEOPLE in February 2022. “I didn’t see it, and I was mad because the dogs pooped in the house, so I wrote back, ‘Who let the dogs poop in the house?’ It was a total mom fail, and they’ve never let me forget that.”

But despite her initial mishap, Heather made it a point to support Kat.

“All I cared about was creating an environment where they all felt safe, comfortable, happy,” Heather said.

OnKat’s 16th birthdayin October 2022, Heather celebrated her daughter with a series of throwback photos on Instagram.

“Cheers to the cutest, best, funniest,sweetest, smartest 16 year old,” she wrote in the caption. “I love you so much and I’m so Proud to be your Mommy !!!!”

In June 2023, Heather dropped Kat off at asummer program in Chicago.

Ace Dubrow, 14

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Heather and Terry’s youngest child, Ace, was born on Dec. 13, 2010.

When Ace was only 9 months old, Heather joined the cast ofRHOCin 2011. She later left the show in 2016 and returned in 2021, when Ace was 11.

In early March 2023, Heather shared an update about her then-13-year-old on Instagram, announcing thather youngest had come out as transgender.

“Our job as parents is to give our kids a safe and supportive environment so they can grow up as healthy, happy, confident, independent humans. Since Ace is a 12 year old child, with a long life ahead of him - we will let him tell his own story someday if he chooses to do so,” Heather wrote alongside a photo of “Ace” written in sand. “All we can say is Ace, we love you so much and we are proud to be your parents. Your brother and sisters love and support you too ❤️.”

On an episode ofLet’s Talk with Heather Dubrow, which aired on March 9, 2023, the mom-of-four discussed the decision to publicly announce Ace’s coming out.

Two months later, Heather opened up to PEOPLE about how her family can “affect change in other people’s families” after Ace’s transition. She said that she received “messages of people who were estranged from their family” who “got so much from us telling our story.”

“Now, the messages of love and hope and support are incredible,” the proud mom continued. “So we just hope to keep moving in that direction and start as many conversations in other people’s families as we can.”

Heather and Terry had previously spoken about their youngest child to PEOPLE in February 2022. The proud dad said the pre-teen has “always been incredibly strong-willed” and called Ace a “very complex, layered person.”

Ace is “going through a lot of self-exploration right now,” Terry added at the time.

Heather also discussed the labels people gave her child, saying, “Everyone always looked at [Ace] because [Ace] dresses ‘like a boy’, which, I hate those kinds of labels. It’s clothing. Clothing should just be clothing at this point.”

“Billy Porter wears a gorgeous gown down the runway. He looks phenomenal. What does it matter what we’re wearing?” she continued, adding Ace “is a very cool kid.”

source: people.com