Maid of Honor Accuses Bride of Being a 'Bridezilla' and 'Stressing Everyone Out' with Wedding Planning Messages

Mar. 15, 2025

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A bride is asking Reddit users if her behavior toward her bridal party was “out of line.”

The bride doesn’t think she’s in the wrong, but has requested feedback in aposton the platform’s “Wedding Planning” forum in case she’s “seriously misreading the situation.” Her maid of honor recently accused her of “being a bridezilla and stressing everyone out.”

Despite making “a very strong effort to not put anyone out or make people inconvenienced” for her “casual” wedding with no “crazy expectations,” the bride has found herself in hot water. After repeatedly reminding her bridal party to order their dresses in time and denying her mother-in-law’s dress choice, the bride was met with criticism from her maid of honor.

“She said I seem ‘high strung,'” the bride wrote.

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The bride is allowing all of her bridesmaids to “pick whatever dress they want,” with her only requests being that they are floral or pastel and mid-length or longer.

Four months ahead of the wedding, she encouraged her bridal party to text her if they were “torn about a dress” or “wanted [her] opinion,” noting that they still had “plenty of time” to make their selections.

“I haven’t told anyone they can’t get the dress they want except my future MIL (mother-in-law) as she picked an almost all white dress and asked if it was too white,” the bride said.

The bride emphasized that she hasn’t asked her bridal party “to do literally anything except get the dress and be there the day of.” She requested no bridal shower gifts, as she knows they can be a “big expense,” and said there’s “no expectation” to get their hair and makeup professionally done, though she did provide a few local options in case they choose to do so.

“I asked a few questions in the text so that I can start making my personalized gifts for them,” says the bride, who is making each woman a shirt with their initials on it, along with a matching scrunchie.

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She then told her maid of honor that although “there is still so much time to get dresses,” she “can’t wait to see what they look like.”

“I am an anxious person and always think of the worst case scenario,” the bride admitted. “I am also excited for my wedding! So I just want to know what all the dresses will look like. I didn’t say that I was mad the other women didn’t get their dresses.”

In response, the maid of honor called her a “bridezilla.”

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“Sometimes there’s little things like a person’s tone when they’re speaking to you, the ‘little’ favors they need, ‘gentle’ reminders that don’t feel so gentle, etc. that add up and can cause resentment,” one person wrote.

“If your bridal party is free to buy any dress within the parameters you outlined then I guess I don’t see why there’s any need to push or micromanage them,” another Redditor commented. “It’s their responsibility to have the dress on time.”

source: people.com