Man Decides to Skip Brother's Wedding to Save Money for His Own Honeymoon: 'Other Things Take Priority'

Mar. 15, 2025

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A man has opted not to attend his older brother’s upcoming wedding because he prefers to save the money for other things like his honeymoon.

He explained his reasoning in a post onReddit’s “Am I the A——” forum, writing, “I decided that I’m not going to attend because I have other things that take priority, like saving money for my honeymoon next year.”

The man, 29, said that when his mom found this out, she called him up and told him he’s “an a– for not going” to the wedding, which is taking place in November.

He went on to share that while his brother, 30, flew six hours to attend his own wedding two months ago, he feels that his “situation is different since they aren’t doing a big wedding.”

“They’re just renting out a large hall with open bar service for everyone, and not really doing much else. My wedding cost more than theirs (meaning I have to come back from that cost),” he explained.

The man also noted that he just bought “an expensive house” four months ago — “so it also makes it hard.”

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“They flew 6 hours to your wedding, and you won’t reciprocate? Because your wedding was better than theirs is going to be?” one person wrote. “Bigger does not mean better, and a hall with open bar service is still pretty expensive, especially if they paid to fly to your wedding. Just say that you don’t care about your family and only care about appearances and how much things cost.”

Another commented: “You mention the relative cost of the two weddings as though it somehow justifies you blowing off your brother’s wedding just a few months after he traveled to yours. It doesn’t.”

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Other Redditors also shared the opinion that the man’s reasons for skipping his brother’s wedding are flimsy.

“None of those are valid reasons for missing out on your brother’s big day when he was there for yours. You just sound selfish,” one person said.

Someone else wrote: “All I’m seeing is a whole lot of excuses and that you expect him to drop everything for you but when the shoe is on the other foot it’s crickets. You CHOSE to have a wedding you clearly couldn’t afford and take on a large mortgage that’s obviously putting you in financial stress.”

The same commenter continued, “Don’t go to the wedding, but be prepared you’ll strain the relationship with your brother. Maybe instead of an expensive honeymoon you should be concentrating on getting your finances in order and living within your means.”

Yet another Redditor asked the man if he’s willing to risk “burning bridges” with his family over his refusal to go to the wedding.

“If you don’t show up to your brother’s wedding because it’s a lower priority expenditure, they’ll remember that for longer than you would miss deferring your honeymoon for. Your brother’s wedding could give you memories that are worth more than the monetary cost of either of your weddings,” they wrote.

source: people.com