Man Says Girlfriend Thinks He’s ‘Invading Her Privacy’ When He Invites People Over to Pick Up Items ‘Really Quick’

Mar. 15, 2025

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A perplexed man is wondering if he’s invadinghis girlfriend’sprivacy.

The man, 30, turned to Reddit’s popular"Am I the A——“forum to ask if he should have to ask his girlfriend, 28, for permission every time someone comes over “for a second“ tothe housethey recently bought together.

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He continued, “Sometimes a friend will call and say ‘Hey I’m in your area, do you mind if I come pick up my bike I left at your house?’ to which I’ll say, ‘Yeah sure no problem.’ Then I’ll let my girlfriend know.”

He shared that his girlfriend will “get mad because I’m not asking her if it’s ok before I agree.”

“I understand planning an event, having guests over for a longer period of time, a get together, but someone just coming over for a second?” he asked, noting that he doesn’t think he should have to ask “permission” as long as he makes it clear who’s coming over, as well as when they will be arriving.

The man also admitted that he would feel “strange” telling potential guests that he needs to “check with my girlfriend” before even the briefest of visits, adding that “no one I know” does the same.

“Am I the a——?” he asked fellow Redditors.

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The original poster responded, “They will socialize for a minute because they are there already, but half the time they aren’t even coming inside. We’ll just chat in the yard or at the front door. If they need to use the bathroom or something I’ll let them come in, but I just get a sense that my girlfriend hates visitors regardless of if I ask her about it or not.”

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Another person proclaimed the boyfriend is “not the a——.”

Yet another commenter shared that they relate to the man’s girlfriend in this scenario, and also advocated for a compromise.

source: people.com