Patricia Arquette's 2 Children: All About Harlow and Enzo

Mar. 15, 2025

Left: Patricia Arquette and Harlow Jane attend Day Eight of the Series Mania Festival on March 22, 2024. Right: Patricia Arquette and son Enzo during “The Punisher” Los Angeles Premiere.Photo:Pascal Le Segretain/Getty ; Gregg DeGuire/WireImage

Pascal Le Segretain/Getty ; Gregg DeGuire/WireImage

Patricia Arquette’s children, Enzo Rossi and Harlow Jane, have helped make her into the actress she is today.

The Academy Award winner shares Enzo, born in 1989, with her ex-boyfriend, Argentinian musician Paul Rossi. They split up amicably when Enzo was 1 month old.

During the filming ofBoyhood, which took place over 12 years, Arquette welcomed daughter Harlow in 2003 with her then-partner, actorThomas Jane. Arquette and Jane wed in 2006 and split up in 2009 before reconciling that same year, ultimately calling it quits in 2010.

“I did not want to become another actor,” Harlow told PEOPLE in 2023. “But I couldn’t help but secretly love it.”

Though Arquette has played many roles over the years, she feels hermost important one is mom.

“The healthy order of things is your children have the most needs, especially when they’re little, and you’re supposed to deal with their needs. It’s not about you,” she told PEOPLE in 2024. “And as you get older, yes, you kind of push them a little more to stand on their own and question things and treat you well, because it teaches them to treat other people outside well. But it’s still not really about you.”

Here’s everything to know about Patricia Arquette’s children, Harlow and Enzo.

Enzo Rossi, 36

Patricia Arquette and son Enzo during “The Punisher” Los Angeles Premiere.Jon Kopaloff/FilmMagic

Jon Kopaloff/FilmMagic

Arquette welcomed son Enzo with then-boyfriend Rossi, an Argentinian musician, in Los Angeles on Jan. 3, 1989.

TheGonzo Girldirector and Rossi split amicably when Enzo was 1 month old and remained close.  “We were wrong for each other,” Arquette toldThe New York Timesin 1993 of her ex. “But when I got pregnant, I knew this person needed to be born.”

TheSeverancestar told the outlet that at the time, the longest she and Enzo, who grew up in L.A.’s Hollywood Hills, were apart was seven days, and she wore a ring set of her son’s birthstone, garnet, to the premiere if her 1993 film,True Romance.

“I’m not a great disciplinarian. But luckily Enzo didn’t really need that. I just talked him through things,” Arquette toldUSA Weekendin 2005. “[My brother]David [Arquette]helped me a lot with understanding him.”

Having Enzo at a young age informed Arquette’s career, motivating her to continue to go on auditions, and later helped her prepare for her role inBoyhood.

“The pressure lit such a fire under my a–: ‘I have to make money. I have to succeed. I have to provide for somebody.’ Even though I’d done a few acting jobs, I had no money, and I wasn’t getting anything. It was all so hard to manage,” she toldThe New Yorkerin 2022, noting she got a waitressing job but “walked away” from it days later when she landed a role inBad Influence.

Enzo nabbed the role because Arquette was directing the episode and had trouble casting the part, so she called her son the night before and told him, “You have to do this for me,” she toldThe Futon Criticin 2009.

Patricia Arquette and son Enzo during “A Time For Heroes” Carnival to Benefit Pediatric AIDS Foundation on June 4, 1994.Ron Galella/Ron Galella Collection/Getty

Ron Galella/Ron Galella Collection/Getty

Enzo went off to college around the same time Arquette filmed a scene forBoyhood,where her character cried while packing her son up to leave for school.

Enzo has made a couple of red carpet appearances, joining his mom and her then-husband, Jane, for the 2004 premiere of his filmThe Punisher, and his mom and her brother David for the opening night ofSir Arthur Conan Doyle’s Sherlock Holmesin 2015.

Along with other partners, Arquette and Enzo collaborated on Fantom Flower, a cannabis lounge in West Hollywood. It started construction in 2022, according toVanity Fair, but according to theirwebsite, it is still coming soon.

Harlow Olivia Calliope Jane, 22

Patricia Arquette and Harlow Olivia Calliope Jane attend the 2024 Vanity Fair Oscar Party on March 10, 2024 in Beverly Hills, California.Jamie McCarthy/WireImage

Jamie McCarthy/WireImage

Born at home in L.A. on Feb. 20, 2003, Harlow Olivia Calliope Jane is the only child of Arquette and her ex-husband, Jane.

The pair met through mutual friends in 2001 and wed in Italy in May 2006. TheOtherhoodactress initially filed for divorce in January 2009, before she withdrew the divorce petition in July. The couple then split for good in August 2010.

“I definitely rebelled against it for as long as I could,” Harlow told PEOPLE. “I remember in first or second grade, we had a career person come to school and I told them that I wanted to be a lawyer.”

Harlow acted in the 2015 miniseriesTexas Rising,2021’sI Love Usand 2023’sShe Came to Me.However, she calledDig, the 2022 action thriller she starred in with her father and learnedAmerican Sign Languagefor, her “first real job” in a 2022 interview withScreenRant. She also played a younger version of Arquette’s character, Peggy,in one episode ofHigh Desert.

“I love my mom, and I just felt like I knew what her face would look like in this moment of screaming at someone,” she told PEOPLE in 2023.

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Though she’s worked with her mom, Harlow told PEOPLE in 2024 that shedoesn’t watch Arquette’s movies, only “clips” here and there.

“The magic of it isn’t there because she’s just always been Mom, so I just can’t see you as anything other than my mom,” Harlow told Arquette.

“And I don’t ever want you to see me as anything other than your mom, honestly,“The Actstarresponded. “I don’t act for validation. I’m grateful for all the success that I’ve had, but I want to be me authentically, and the only two people in this world that I’m really mom to are you and your brother.”

Harlow now considers herself “lucky” to have grown up around “eccentric” creatives.

“I think people who are artists and creative, we’re pretty prone to our big emotions,” she told PEOPLE. “But also, it was beautiful. It was great. I’m lucky to have grown up around so much art and creation and creativity. It was a general spirit of playfulness, even today.”

source: people.com