Sibling Skipping Sister's Wedding Because She Invited Their Ex Against Their Wishes: 'A Lot of Painful Memories'

Mar. 15, 2025

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A bride’s sibling refuses to attend her wedding because she invited their ex.

The upset sibling asked Reddit users in aposton the platform’s popular “Am I the A——?” forum whether or not they were in the wrong for potentially skipping their sister’s upcoming wedding because their ex was invited and is planning to attend.

The poster and their partner of three years split last year in a “tough breakup.”

“It was a messy end, involving a lot of mutual friends and some uncomfortable social situations,” the individual wrote.

Despite the messy breakup, the Redditor’s sister “remained friendly” with the ex.

“[She] decided to invite them to her upcoming wedding,” the poster said. “She didn’t consult me before sending the invite, and I only found out because my ex let me know they had received it and were planning to attend.”

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This frustrated the poster because they don’t have a good relationship with their ex and don’t want them ruining what is supposed to be a happy familial celebration.

“I expressed my discomfort to my sister, explaining that seeing my ex would make it difficult for me to enjoy the day and could bring up a lot of painful memories,” the poster wrote. “I also pointed out that it puts me in a position where I have to interact with my ex during what should be a happy family occasion.”

In response, the bride argued that “since they had become close friends” during the relationship, it was “only right” to invite their sibling’s ex.

“She said she didn’t want to exclude someone important to her because of our breakup,” the poster noted.

The bride’s sibling was unhappy with her response. After taking time to think about the situation, the poster decided that if their ex attends the wedding, then they wouldn’t because they “would not feel comfortable.”

“Now, my family is split, with some members saying I’m being unreasonable and should be able to put aside my feelings for one day, while others think my sister should have prioritized my feelings on her big day,” they wrote. “This has created a rift, and now I’m unsure if I’m making the right decision.”

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“Weddings should be about love and happiness, not dodging your ex like you’re in some kind of romantic obstacle course!” one person commented in part.

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They also noted that while it is the bride’s right to invite anyone she wants on her big day, the move was inconsiderate and she’ll have to face the consequences of whatever her sibling decides.

“She has a RIGHT to invite whoever she wants. And you have the RIGHT not to attend,” one person wrote. “Nevertheless, you now know where you fit in her life, now act accordingly.”

Another Redditor commented: “Wedding days are stressful enough without having to dodge your ex the whole time. Your sister pulled a classic narcissist move not even giving you a heads up before inviting them. The fact she’s prioritizing a friendship over your mental wellbeing speaks volumes.”

source: people.com