Teen Makes Pregnant Sister-in-Law Cry After Ignoring Her Advice Not to Change Her 'Old-Fashioned' First Name

Mar. 15, 2025

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A teenager got into a disagreement with her pregnant sister-in-law that ended in tears after she made the decision to change her first name.

“My parents gave in after realizing how serious I was about being Indie and how I was not warming up to or growing into Evelyn,” the teen wrote.

“Hailey asked me about 5 months ago why I disliked Evelyn enough to change the name. At the time, she brought up how popular the name has become and how vintage is back,” the teen continued. “I told her I didn’t like vintage names and to me it sounded really old-fashioned. I told her the popularity didn’t influence my decision.”

“She wanted to know my reason for disliking older names and why I liked something like Indie instead,” she added. “I didn’t mind her asking this first time.”

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But the discussion didn’t stop there. The teen said Hailey brought up the name change repeatedly and each time, she told her sister-in-law that her answer “wasn’t going to change.”

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When Hailey broached the subject yet again — telling her young sister-in-law that she “had made a mistake” and that her 30-year-old self “wouldn’t be so against” the name Evelyn — the teen “kinda lost my temper,” she recalled.

The exchange ended with Hailey crying and the teen upsetting her other family members. “[Hailey] burst into tears and my brother got so mad at me. My parents were also like why did I have to speak to her so harshly,” she concluded her post, inviting fellow Redditors to weigh in on whether she was in the wrong to make Hailey cry after she would not drop the issue of the name change.

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“If someone continues to question your identity, and they don’t accept you for who you are, and if they ignore your explanation and request to move on….they are bullies and discriminatory,” one person wrote.

“She refused to accept your initial answer, harassed you for months, disrespected your identity and disrespected the way your parents have raised you, to be independent and true to yourself and your identity,” another person chimed in.

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Others praised the teen for showing remarkable patience and sympathized with her finally reaching her limit and losing her temper with her sister-in-law.

“You were immensely patient for putting up with it for as long as you did, and your outburst is completely understandable. Sure, you could have been less aggressive in your final response, but she also could have stopped asking the same question 20+ times ago,” someone wrote.

“You have repeatedly communicated your reasons for changing your name and have asked Hailey to stop questioning you. Your feelings and decisions regarding your name should be respected, and her persistence in bringing it up crossed a boundary,” added another.

Yet another person agreed: “You have every right to feel what you feel and be called what you wanna be called.”

source: people.com