Wife Upset After Husband Ignored Her Request to Not Send Holiday Cards to Family Members Who Skipped Daughter's Wedding

Mar. 15, 2025

Man and woman arguing (stock image).Photo:Stefa Nikolic/Getty

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A woman is feeling particularly blue this winter after her husband sent holiday cards to family members she doesn’t like behind her back.

“They had various work and other family obligations near the date of our event,” the woman explained. " ‘Save the Date’ cards had been sent out six months prior, but we were apparently lower on their priority list. I expressed to my husband my desire to not send holiday cards this year because I no longer feel good about these family members."

She thought she and her husband were on the same page about not sending holiday cards this year — but she was wrong.

Writing a winter season holiday card (stock image).Getty Images/RooM RF

Getty Images/RooM RF

She continued in her submission: “Then, while I was traveling for work, he bought cards, printed a letter with pictures, signed it from both of us and sent it to most of his family and some of our mutual friends. The first I heard about it was from a friend thanking me for the card and pictures a month later.”

“DEAR STILL MIFFED: Although you didn’t want to send holiday cards to the relatives who skipped your daughter’s wedding, apparently your husband didn’t feel the same way. He was entitled to do what he did,” she wrote. “Repeat after me: A wedding invitation is not a command performance. Now let it go.”

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“Your husband is a generous soul for buying cards, preparing his chatty letter and sending it to his loved ones. You? Not so much,” the top comment reads. “LW (letter writer), no one is obligated to attend a wedding even when they have advance notice. To punish them for not attending is mean-spirited and doesn’t accomplish anything except for resentment all around. If that’s what you wanted, consider yourself successful.”

source: people.com