Woman Is Furious After Husband’s Best Friend Repeatedly Calls Her Ex-Wife’s Name: ‘It Feels Deliberate’

Mar. 15, 2025

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A woman is looking for advice about a bizarre situation with her husband and his best friend.

The woman, 32, posted toReddit’s AITAH subreddit(which stands for “Am I the A——") to ask if her actions were out of line. She and her husband, 35, have been married for two years, and, she wrote, “everything has been great — except for his best friend, Jake.”

“I’ve never met her, but from what I understand, Jake was very close to her,” the woman wrote. “My husband says Jake just ‘slips up’ sometimes because he’s known Laura for years.”

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“The first time it happened, I let it go,” she explained. “The second and third times, I corrected him politely. But it kept happening, and now it feels deliberate.” At a recent dinner, she noted he called her Laura “three times.” Every time she corrected him, he would laugh and say, “Old habits die hard.”

“Finally, I snapped and told Jake, ‘My name is [my name], not Laura, and if you can’t respect that, maybe you shouldn’t come around anymore,’ ” she wrote. “He looked shocked, and my husband told me later that I embarrassed Jake in front of everyone.”

Now, the writer isn’t sure if she was a “jerk” for calling him out. “Jake is saying I overreacted and that it was an innocent mistake, but I’m not so sure,” she said. “My husband is torn — he understands why I’m upset but thinks I should’ve handled it more privately.”

Another wrote, “You’ve tried handling it politely, now it’s time to embarrass him.” They suggested saying things like, “Wow dude, Laura again?! Do you have a crush on her or something?”

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“This slip up is weird,” another wrote. “I mean…. his being close to Laura doesn’t explain the mistake. In fact, it should mean he knows you are not Laura!”

“If your husband wanted it handled privately why didn’t he do it?” another person asked. “You had already brought this up to him so he should be defending you. To me, it is deliberate because you have corrected him several times. Jake deserves to be embarrassed.”

source: people.com