Woman Refuses to Be a Bridesmaid in Wedding Because She’s 'Uncomfortable' with Bride’s Fiancé: ‘Suck it Up’

Mar. 15, 2025

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A woman is backing out of being a bridesmaid because she’s “uncomfortable” with her best friend’s fiancé.

The 25-year-old woman explained in a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum that she and a 26-year-old bride have been friends for more than 10 years. Initially, the woman was “excited” to be her “super close” friend’s bridesmaid, but she has now decided to step down from the role because she can’t stand the 28-year-old groom.

She noted that the bride “doesn’t seem to notice” these rude actions, “or maybe she just brushes it off.”

The poster’s “tension” with the groom has left her second guessing her involvement in her friend’s wedding party.

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“The more I thought about it, the more uncomfortable I felt being in the same space with [him] for an entire wedding,” she said. “I don’t want to cause drama, but I don’t think I can pretend everything’s fine when he clearly doesn’t like me.”

When the poster expressed her feelings to the bride, she wasn’t understanding about it.

“She got really upset and said I was making a big deal out of nothing and that I was being selfish for not supporting her on her big day,” the woman wrote. “She even said I was ‘ruining’ the friendship because I can’t just suck it up.”

The poster knows her decision “might hurt” her friend because she’s “not supporting her wedding fully.” She said that the two “have been through a lot together,” but doesn’t think she can get through being in the wedding party with the groom being around all the time.

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The poster asked Reddit users if she “overreacted.” Most people commented that she didn’t but advised her to really think about her decision because it might cost her her friendship.

“NTA (not the a——) but you have to decide what’s more important to you — being there for your friend or standing on your principles,” the top comment reads. “She’s not going to see it how you see it and this could potentially end your friendship with her for the foreseeable future. Is that what you want? (this is not your fault but being realistic here). You could participate and just avoid him. Or you can just bow out but if you don’t participate, are you ready to lose your friend? If that answer is yes, then you made your choice.”

source: people.com