Woman Says Her Date ‘Shamed’ Her for How She Dressed on Their First Outing: ‘He Pulled a Face. A Face!’

Mar. 15, 2025

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A woman is wondering if she’s “out of touch” with what to wear ondatesafter being “dress shamed” about her outfit on a recent first date.

Admitting that men have commented on herstyle choicesever since she startedonline dating, the woman in her mid-50s recalled one particular date on the U.K.-based forumMumsnetand told readers to reply with “brutal honesty.”

“I like jeans and trousers. I wear good quality ones, on trend (or so my daughter tells me!), good tops, nice jackets,” she wrote, prefacing her date story with her sense of style. “I’m a trainers and Chelsea Boots fan, don’t do heels. Own one smart black dress, wore it for a funeral two years ago, and have a couple of summer ones that I pull out when it’s scorching.”

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She then described the March 5 first date at U.K. burger joint Bill’s.

“We ate burgers, I wore good jeans, a vintage Bella Freud jumper, some boots, hair and makeup effort was applied,” she said. “He said, ‘I thought we’d be dressing up.’ This has happened to me a fair bit since [online dating], never happened when I was younger and dressed the same.”

“Is it just men of this age who expect women to show up in high heels and skirts/dresses?” she continued, pondering his comment.

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This led to a “polite debate,” which resulted in him asking her what she would wear if they attended a wedding together.

“I replied that the last wedding I went to I wore a fitted waistcoat with nothing underneath, wide legged linen trousers, and lots of cool jewelry and got loads of compliments.” she remembered.

“He pulled a face. A face!!” she added, then asked, “Anyone else dress shamed on dates? Is it their age? Am I out of touch with what to wear?”

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Her March 6 Mumsnet post quickly garnered passionate responses.

Addressing people who wondered what her dating profile photo is, the original poster said she’s wearing jeans and a “boyfriend blazer” in it.

source: people.com